Alfie’s Grief

If you recall Alfie, he is the same 13 year old kid who hit the media headlines a few months back as to the father a child at this young age. I did write on him at that time and again picking my pen as a follow up on the outcome of the DNA tests that were then being planned to be undertaken.

It turns out now that young Alfie is grieving because DNA results have established that he is NOT the father of his girl friend’s newly born daughter, Maise. Instead the real father is believed to be a 15 year old Tyler Baker living very close to Chantelle.

At that time when Alfie claimed to be the father of Maise, other claimants emerged as all of them believed they were the father. The basis of their claim was only the proximity of them sleeping with Chantelle when she might have conceived.

The media was then banned to further report on the developments of the Alfie case but now as the ban is being lifted, it comes to be known that last month Justice Eleanor King said Chantelle had been called a SLUT by people unknown to her.

Chantelle also said she was ‘crying a lot every day’ and feared that the insults would ‘go on forever’. The judgment in March, which established that Alfie was not the father of Maise also left Alfie in ‘extreme distress’ after learning that he was not the father.

I myself am in the situation of ‘extreme distress’ and am sure that many of the concerned members of the society would also be in the same ‘extremely distressful situation’.

It leaves me in awe regarding the motives behind the events as they unfolded to everyone and one stands wondering as to why all this fuss if certainty of things was in question from day one?

Was there a purpose behind all this or did a bunch of irresponsible individuals try to take advantage of the situation and make some money? And what did the media get out of all this? Certainly a few hundred thousands more in their accounts, increased publicity and probably a lot of social discomfort?

I am very concerned now as to what should be done of the current situation in which people have started taking pride for their irresponsible acts. All of Chantelle’s boy friends were trying to win the race of the fatherhood trying to win the nomination. Least they had regard the Chantelle was cheating upon all of them.

And baby Maise was in the womb of her mother for 9 months and during this period, Chantelle must definitely have visited doctors of the NHS and someone must have taken her to the hospital for routine checkups as she must not have been ‘old enough’ to go by herself.

But was she old enough to have a baby all by herself without being certain on the fatherhood of Maise? Should fun seeking go so far that one does the irreversible damage? Creating life is not a difficult task as has been proven from this whole example, but pruning it is a lot more.

Didn’t her parents seek any kind of clarification or explanation from her in this regard as to who the father is and were they not concerned as to how she will raise Maise while she is still going to school?

And now that the father of Maise has been identified, will he take responsibility in her upbringing? Or will this child again be taken for granted as another component for exploiting the benefit system?

Then the question again arises that if she can have a baby at this age then why can’t she marry? Why does law come into action in this sphere if it cannot stop someone from having a baby?

A lot of whys and ifs and buts but the outcome is that who will be responsible for the upbringing of baby Maise? From where will she receive the necessary guidance to which every child looks forward to? Who will be her mentor?

Her single mother, who might still fling and want to enjoy her sexuality and teenage-hood, probably will start feeling her as a chain in the legs. Because it would be considered an infringement of Chantelle’s human rights if she is not allowed the opportunity to live her life, but what will the future of Maise shape up into?

Why don’t we understand that father is there for a purpose and not just to fertilize? Kids look forward to their fathers as an icon, until they are able enough to distinguish between a father and a good father. In his absence, kids seem to be at loss, feeling that cavity inside themselves throughout their life.

Let us put a thought towards improving things as a society and not base our judgments on individualism. Restrictions and laws should focus around the effect of acts on a wider social scenario and not just the individual.

Human beings are meant to be living in a society as they have been classified as social animals. And it cannot be ignored that in a social structure, the doings of an individual have a social outcome.

If they were to destroy the basic unit of their dwelling, i.e. the social fabric, their future is bleak. Then the rule of the jungle and the survival of the fittest can be truly exercised.