Is Demanding Sex Rape
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In Kabul Afghanistan the law was passed that a husband can demand sex from his wife, is this considered rape?
In Kabul Afghanistan the law was passed by the government that a husband can demand sex from his wife every four days. Is this rape to demand sex and having no say in the matter? I do believe it is, or at least in this Country. This new law also regulates when and why a wife can leave her home. How in the world can anyone believe this is the right thing to do to a human being?
Afghanistan and the middle east in general wonder why the rest of the world do not understand them and protest their actions. These are just a couple reasons we take notice.
A few hours ago 300 Afghan woman protested these laws and over 1000 others surrounded them as they protested and threw stones at them. Many others were to join this protest, but were blocked by their husbands and were not allowed to attend. The woman who did manage to make the protest chanted as they stood there that they were doing this for human rights and woman’s rights. The police tried to keep the two groups apart but the Afghan woman were still struck with stones and gravel.
How can woman be treated like this? I am not an activist but with all this going on I may become one very soon. With the uproar of these new Shiite laws and with the attention from activists the Shiite families are saying we are interfering with Afghan affairs.
Of course we are, woman aren’t dogs or animals they are to be treated with respect and dignity. Being covered from head to toe in Burqas and not being able to leave their homes without a male escort is nuts and now being ordered to give sex?
In my line of work I have met and worked with many of these woman who somehow came to the United States and it is incredible how they were and still are treated even here in the states. Their culture leaves the boundaries of their homeland and spills over into ours. Of course it is all very hush hush and unless you know some of them personally you would never know it is going on, but they are still treated the same no matter where they call home.
Now with this law of woman having to give their husbands sex whether they want to or not is unjust. When will these people stop! How can anyone that preachers their religion as the best there is do these things to their precious woman. The mothers of their children, the ones who prepare their food and care for their homes.
Yes, as a woman myself I find all of it wrong, and I know that if anyone told me I could not leave my house or needed to give sex when HE wanted it I would tell them to pound sand where the sun don’t shine, but this is not my culture it is theirs.
With the protests from these brave woman who live in Kabul and must abide by these laws I commend. They are finally standing up for their rights and I do hope and pray they conquer their male counterparts in this matter.
Sex to me is a unity of two consenting people. To me it is the closest you can be with another human being. It involves feelings and caring and love. It is not supposed to be just a roll over to satisfy the man who lays beside you. It is precious!
Yes, every country has their own culture and laws but some just do not act as humans but rather as captures. I also realize that if I was brought up in this culture then possibly I would just abide by all these laws and not say an word, but I wasn’t, thank God and I do believe if many of these woman knew this was not the way they should be treated they would also protest, but for fear for their lives and thousands of years instilled in them this is just the way it is. Who knows what the outcome of all this will be, but I still stand by my beliefs and say this is all wrong!
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Indeed, only the women can free themselves. The international community must support the plight of the Afghan women. Their sorry state reflects how far the country has gone. The presence of Americans does not help either.
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After reading the title I was thinking funny stuff but this is far from funny and very wrong…. In our world demanding sex off your partner is ment as a joke but in this culture they really mean it and the women dont have a say…. very wrong
Well let’s hope the husbands are a little more thoughtful than the law makers and show respect for their wives. I feel that those who will follow the law probably already take no as yes, regardless of a ruling. Maybe there will be fewer marriages if the parents have respect for their daughters too. Sadly I feel not, this is a violation of human rights. There will be a lot of ill women, as the law states the husband cannot touch her if she is ill…Interesting article.
I wonder if we will see a comment from a woman who agrees with the law, I would like to know why.
good grief, in Afghanistan, they have such weird and awkward laws. I am glad I do not live there. Very interesting, thank you for sharing it with us Lindalulu.
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yes, yes, and yes.
Anyone that agrees with this law should have something forced up their anus!
A very passionate write. It is hard to believe laws like these can be passed these days.
Christine
Great article! This goes beyond wrong!
Great articule. I would say this is just not an Afghan problem though. The oppression of women is rife thoughout the entire Islamic world.
I don’t think it’s right,but I thought it was kind of like that already in that part of the world.Why would anyone pass a law like this or even write it up?Seems pretty strange.
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This is a great article and it is important for of us men and women to support the rights of women. A free society is one that gives expression to all its citizens. Incidently I know many muslims and they are discusted with this interpretation of islamic law.
This is a great article but if I am right, they were only thinking about passing the law and the law has yet to been passed.
Nevertheless, it’s disgusting and when countries such as the U.S. and Canada are in Afghanistan, lying down our lives and spending our money, surely we could do more to ensure that women get the rights they deserve.
The middle east is very aberated as a whole. The only way that I can see for these poor women to escape the conditons that live under is for some genius single woman to come up with a technology that’s worth more than than their nations debt and leverage it against laws they make. They are helpless and the world can only watch.
If the husbands treated their wives the way they should in the first place, they wouldn’t feel compelled to bring the law into it I’m sure. I’d call it rape!
Nice article and I feel bad for those women and the things they have to go through isn’t right. Rape in any way isn’t something that that should ever happen to any women at all.
I just read this article this morning on CNN. I cannot believe that people are still living in such conditions considering how we are supposed to be advanced as a civilization. For God sakes! Women are not property, to be provided solely for the indulgent purposes of providing pleasure for men, regardless of wether or not you are married. As far as I’m concerned, this is rape. Just because you’re married, doesn’t make it right for a man to dictate to his “equal” what he can and cannot do with his wife. It’s disgusting.
You’re absolutely right — a marriage (and any activity that results) needs to be based on love, trust, and respect. Anything else is just wrong.
I agree, it is wrong. No one should be forced to have relations with their wives or husbands.
Very interesting article. As one of the other commentors pointed out though, this is not a law, it was merely a bill which was brought before the government and it has not been passed because many politians have withdrawn their support for it in the wake of oppossition. So hopefully this is one step in the right direction…
Interesting article, I am with you on this Linda, it is wrong to be forced into these situations.
Total agreement – there is so much wrong with the world and this is no exception
It sounds somewhat barbaric, don’t you think? It is rape and wrong if it is against your will…husband or not.
Wow I didn’t know all of that women shouldn’t be forced to have sex with a man unless they want to, there are probably a lot of jerks out there that feel like they aren’t doing anything wrong. Thank you for commenting on my poem or story or whatever you want to call it, and I like this article
These things have to be said over and over again! Good article!
I totally and utterly agree with you. Just because you’re in a relationship doesn’t mean your partner can just jump on you. Reakky great article.
It is amazing that there are still cultures that view men a superiors to women, but there still are. Unfortunately, the women in these countries who have a voice are ridiculed and harassed to the point that they return to their silence.
very good article
there are lots of things we don’t understand – but some just seem to go across that final backstop line in anyone’s idea of humanity
thanks again – revivor
Yes
The international community must take a leading role to support the plight of the Afghan women. In most parts of the middle East, women have no voice to appeal injustices, they are treated shamefully. this not only molesting someone in a relationship, its stepping back into the dark age.
it’s funny, but laws like these passed in my country…
Wow.. Unfortunately its their laws but I would have to say yes its rape! People are just sick mofos….